adjective
A relational dynamic in which two or more parties sustain an unhealthy bond through the performance or reinforcement of dependency, rather than through genuine connection. In paradependency, the illusion of need becomes the adhesive of the relationship, often masking its absence of vitality or reciprocity. One partner may enable, while the other exaggerates or maintains dependency, together creating a cycle where the appearance of reliance substitutes for authentic intimacy or growth.
Etymology:
From “para-” (Greek: beside, beyond, or alongside) + “dependent” (Latin: dependere, to hang from). Refers to a state adjacent to true dependence, sustained for relational continuity rather than necessity.
Example Sentence:
Their marriage had long since lost any real intimacy, but the paradependent routine of her enabling and their needing kept it intact like a hollow stage play.